tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post3432882520439188476..comments2024-03-18T14:34:50.951+13:00Comments on Resources to Master The Inner Game: Psychic Hotline Addiction Costs $33,000 a yearTaliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08021644688776666185noreply@blogger.comBlogger97125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-85162193186896387882016-01-15T23:45:23.817+13:002016-01-15T23:45:23.817+13:00I am a 26 yr old, i have an addiction to Psychics....I am a 26 yr old, i have an addiction to Psychics. Ever since i moved to a different country, bad things have been happening to me. <br /><br />I wasnt equipped to live with out family..<br /><br />My addiction started 6 months ago and I have spent all my savings on them. I have started to lose patience to making decisions on my own. I have lost trust in my own decisions. I have been liked by many guys but they all wanted just temporary relationships. I didnt know why this was happening to me. <br />This is something I cant talk to parents about. I have no one to talk to. So I turned to them. Becuase they listen and they reassure. However they do not have degree in psychology. They dont know how to treat a depressed person in 5 mins. with the money you burn in 5 minutes you can get a quality Psychiatrists that actually can help you using cognitive behaviour therapy to get better.<br /><br />This is my life.. Addicted to boys and attention. I spent all my precious study time thinkin about crushes (boys) while they became more successful than me.<br />Now i'm an educated professional and looking for a promotion but still no improvement. I have crushes on men and I now spend time and money on asking if they like me.<br />Why? WHy should I be with someone? Why cant my world just be work and the internet?<br /><br />Why do I need to find a man to marry? Why do I have so much pressure from the society and my family? I am like this broken, disheartened, stupid woman who loves people that cannot love me back. ALL OF THIS IS MAKING ME GO BACK TO THEM. SPEND ALL MY EARNINGS THERE.<br /><br />With the same money I couldve donated for a good cause. I couldve bought nice clothes that I never had. I couldve bought a car..ladiosahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05201053672799409771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-15157594620299922262014-02-05T13:21:13.244+13:002014-02-05T13:21:13.244+13:00im addicted too but im trying to stop this year. ...im addicted too but im trying to stop this year. I like calling psychics because they listen, don't judge and tell you what you want to hear most of the time. Even though most things they tell me didn't happen. It helps talking things out. I should have gone to a therapist with the money I spent instead. I have hope I can quit, im the type of person that I go through fazes, once I get tired of doing something I move on to the next addiction/obsession. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-20481865312555909752014-01-25T00:11:14.434+13:002014-01-25T00:11:14.434+13:00I am really shocked seeing that this is a global p...I am really shocked seeing that this is a global problem. I am not from the U.S. or the U.K. But I see now that the system is working in the same way everywhere. I have been phoning psychich hotlines for almost 5 years. Apart wasting money it kept me in a horrible relationship. During the relationship I paused for a whole year with calling psychics. Not because everything was good but because I wanted to live by my own advice. Things did not work out well and I broke with the man I was in a relationship with. I wanted hin back though I knew it would be another trip to hell. So I started calling again. Naturally, they predicted a reunion. It's been 7 months now with no reunion in sight (which is good - not for my Ego but for my psychic health). <br />Six weeks ago I cancelled all my accounts, not before confronting my "advisors" withe the false predictions - to no avail, of course. I feel free now. Not from pain, sorrow, hurt and fear (I'm a mess). But free from the mindfuck of those psychics. People who are less educated than myself. People who are spending their days, weekends and holidays included, giving "advice" while demonstrating with their permanent presence that their lives are empty, too. <br />I hope we all will get through this and regain strenght and trust in ourselves!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-1370656095058581462013-11-20T15:12:40.099+13:002013-11-20T15:12:40.099+13:00I am a psychic addict and I will be receiving help...I am a psychic addict and I will be receiving help for this addiction. It feels good to know that I am not alone in this. I am like most of you highly educated with a good paying job but I have spent $$$ on psychics and it has to stop now. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-36483787507224862592013-09-08T01:54:25.063+12:002013-09-08T01:54:25.063+12:00I'd like to chime in on Oranum's community...I'd like to chime in on Oranum's community where even more addicts and frauds are flourishing to the tune of nearly 700,000 readings in 2.5 years. Many addicts there jump from room to room, get readings just as you all do on the other sites and the end result is that we become financially broke among the other emotional and mental havoc it creates.<br /><br />However, I will say, that there are psychics who exist and whose predictions come true. But when we become addicted and "need" this we have only ourselves, and perhaps the government to blame for not stepping in and regulating this profession and its members.<br /><br />We should not be embarrassed about getting readings. Quite the contrary, people know that clairvoyance exists but the problem is that it is natural for us to become hooked like crack addicts. And it is not that obvious for us or others before we get carried away.<br /><br />Regardless, clairvoyance is too messed up for any of us that are outside the spiritual dimension to understand. It is just not going to work the way we want it to and no, we will not understand it the way we see things here in the flesh life. But clearly, when astonishing predictions come true or when you have a mediumship and are given the most secretive information, you know that there is a connection to the spirit world.<br /><br />I ask this question to each of us. Do you guys think that spirit guides really want us to be addicts? Or just to say, hello i'm here and i'm looking after you.<br /><br />We know the answer to this. We should not be soliciting help at the speed of losing our homes because we give in. And we can't trust where the psychics are getting their energy from. <br /><br />So rather than become addicts, we have to force ourselves to put things in a perspective. First, if you want a reading limit yourself to an annual reading much like reading the annual horoscope. It's enough and tells you month by month what's going on.<br /><br />If however, you are in so much trouble and over your head, you have to go first to a true doctor and sort out the real issues before creating more trouble in your life.<br /><br />We all got into this because we want to cop out of getting real help and instead control our lives. But we all know that this is the wrong way to do this and that anybody who sees us continually does want to make an income and is not our loved one to truly step in and say stop. By the time you find saints in the profession, you will have depleted enough money to know who has your back and the reason they do is probably since you already spent so much time with them.<br /><br />Anyway, I wish you all well. We need to have more clinical focus on this in psychology and it is clear that we focus on drinking, gambling and drugs, but this is considerably similar in terms of how many homes are affected.<br /><br />Let's take back our lives and put things in perspective. I'm not saying we can stop this or how to stop it specifically, but it is clear we need intervention and need to see professionals --even if we ourselves are professionals because let's face it most of us here have spent in the tens of thousands even more, so we are not under-educated or lacking in resources but have chosen this path because we want control. Well, it's time we take back our lives.<br /><br />Let the spirit world stay where it is. When we listen to our inner selves, we will make the best sense to us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-52379509180716573012013-08-16T11:07:31.002+12:002013-08-16T11:07:31.002+12:00(continued)
- Spend money on something positive...(continued)<br /><br /><br /><br />- Spend money on something positive and healing. Maybe it's an activity, or a healing treatment of some kind, or even objects that make you feel good about yourself, plan a weekend trip somewhere to visit a friend elsewhere. I realized that with all the money I was spending on psychics, I could instead be boosting myself in a positive way, by spending some (but clearly not as much) money on those things instead. For me, I picked getting a monthly massage, going to yoga classes more often, shopping for a piece of clothing that I really liked, weekend trips with my boyfriend or a friend or to visit a friend a short flight away for a weekend, treated myself to a nice meal out more often. I even donated money to organizations I support, which felt great and empowering. All of these really helped me-- and I saved lots of money despite it (because I wasn't spending as much... and then none, on psychics.)<br /><br />- When you avoid going to the psychics, you save money... reward yourself by looking at the amount of money in your savings account and see it grow. That feels wonderful.<br /><br />- Find another regular activity that is passive, to do instead of the psychic chats... for me, it was taking up watching a movie or a tv show (or several) each night of the week at first. This distracted me during the strong cravings.<br /><br />- Remind yourself of how you feel after you give in and do readings... as a message about why to just sit through the urge.<br /><br />The more time that passes since your last reading, the better and stronger you feel. After awhile, I couldn't believe how calm, grounded, and strong and healthy I felt. I finally got to a point where I didn't even want to. The relapse came when I thought "hmm... I don't even feel like I need it, so maybe I could do it, just a short 10 minute chat, and prove to myself that it's not an addiction anymore-- no harm done. I'm curious about this new guy I have a crush on...it's all just in fun." It slowly picked up from there, since I broke that barrier, and I was not strong enough to withstand the urge, and it got to feeling uncontrollable again. I've learned that for me, it is not something I can just do a little bit of. I will be tempted to go back and it'll just increase. So, don't ever fool yourself that you are different from others (like me), or you are stronger now and won't fall into the hole again. You will... so just stay strong and stay away.<br /><br />All this will help you realize what the underlying issues are, so that you can face them more and come up with ways to heal and improve your life, find other ways to cope that are healthy.<br /><br />Now I need to start my own process again. I'll say right now, that for now, I will avoid going back for a chat for the next week (at which point, I know from past experience, the urge will subside enough to get a grip.) I've lately been going every day almost, for long sessions, sometimes with multiple readers in one day. Sigh... it is hard, and I do believe it is a brain thing that happens that you have to break (a pattern) in order to move on from it.<br /><br />I hope this helps... let's be good to ourselves.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-47034731993227826542013-08-16T11:07:03.867+12:002013-08-16T11:07:03.867+12:00I have read through some of these posts and at a t...I have read through some of these posts and at a time when I'm fully aware that I really need to stop my online psychic web chatting. Over a period of about 12 years, I have spent tens of thousands (at least) USD on psychic chats online. I hate admitting that. Lately, over the past year, it's been bad again and I need to stop/get help.<br /><br />As others have said, those of us who seek out psychic readers addictively all have triggers. I did manage to stop completely for about a year and a half or more, before I relapsed last year. This is a reminder that this really is a behavioral sort of addiction and that I need to treat it like that. I've read that it's similar, in terms of effects on the brain, as gambling is to gambling addicts.<br /><br />I wanted to share how I broke out of it when I did, and how I relapsed (and how I think I could prevent that.) I did what some others did-- canceled my accounts online, blocked the sites on my computer, to help me think twice before trying. Here's what else helped me:<br /><br />- therapy, even though I'd been in therapy, I talked to her about it, admitted when I did it, even if not right away. If you don't have a therapist, find one now.<br /><br />- Tell someone in your life whom you think you can share it with, who will likely be supportive or at least non-judgmental. I told one of my oldest/best friends, and can continue to talk to her when I want to about it. She was supportive and knows me well enough that she respected me and was just compassionate. She's someone who has her own challenges, so she is not judgmental.<br /><br />- Find an in-person or online support group. Yahoo has a psychic addict email support group, moderated by a recovering psychic addict. Her website has info and also info about joining the online free support group: PsychicJunkie.net This was invaluable to me-- it gave me an immediate outlet where I could just post an email there instead of doing a psychic chat online, talking about my current challenge/issue and urge. I would get responses from others that were helpful, supportive, understanding. It also helped to read others' posts and offer my support, and somehow made me stronger in general with the whole thing. They have also recently set up phone and in-person support groups locally in some areas (the online members.)<br /><br />- Immediately call a friend, any friend, or family member, just to say hi, talk...not necessarily about your issue or the addiction, but just to distract yourself in the moment of urge, until it passes. I often did this in combination with heading outside for a walk, while talking on my cell phone.<br /><br />- Get outside right way. Go for a walk, even a 10 or 15 minute walk in the neighborhood. Studies show that even 15 minutes of walking, good brain chemicals are released that lift mood... what we are seeking (in part) from psychic chats.<br /><br />- Head out in public somewhere-- go to a cafe and take a book, a journal to write in, a newspaper or magazine, sit and sip something and get a snack, and you will feel better.<br /><br />(continued...)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-54574302216003800542013-08-05T22:52:16.028+12:002013-08-05T22:52:16.028+12:00[continued from previous]
I mean, I could still w...[continued from previous]<br /><br />I mean, I could still walk down the road to the shop and buy biscuits or cigarettes even having cleared my house of them but that extra step of having to go more consciously out of my way to do it gives time for me to consider what I am really doing and not "give in" to a knee-jerk craving triggered by whatever psychological weakness triggers the addiction. Same thing with blocking the websites. You cant recover as an alcoholic if you keep bottles and bottles of your favourite liquor at easy hand's reach from you all the time.<br /><br />Another thing I did was ring my phone operator and ask them to block my mobile phone from being able to dial premium rate numbers (the worst way to lose money to psychic readings). Sometimes the default setting of the network is to block these numbers anyway. And if you get these "free texts" which "see some progress coming in your love life this week... reply MORE to find out @£1.50 per text", there is an option to "opt out" (e.g. reply STOP) and then you don't get pestered by those any more. Those text readings are the worst anyway... you can blow a lot of money getting short, vague useless comments. They are poor value for money even compared to calls.<br /><br />Another thing I would have done (if the above did not work enough) would have been to ring my credit card company and ask them if they can block transactions with all those psychic companies so that I cannot use my cards on readings. Cut off the supply. <br /><br />With time, you will realise that you CAN survive and get through the days without needing to turn to false saviours. If you really can't, then forgo just one or two readings and spend that money on a counsellor instead. Tell them you've got an addiction to psychic readings and need help. <br /><br />Getting over this addiction will start to help you to feel better about life again, even if the underlying initial triggers (bad relationships etc. ) are not resolved. Don't beat yourself up about money already lost to the psychics. See it as an investment in a difficult learning experience. Instead, beat up the addiction. Beating the addiction will show you that you have more power over your life than you thought, and then you will actually become stronger and be able to face the underlying problems too. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-74749670673876291152013-08-05T22:50:58.696+12:002013-08-05T22:50:58.696+12:00Psychic addiction is like any other addiction. As ...Psychic addiction is like any other addiction. As I was trying to kick the habit, at first I tried to 'reason' with myself why the readings weren't a good idea, to 'convince' myself not to ring. For instance, keep a record of all the predictions which did NOT come true, and look at your financial statements to work out how much you have wasted on readings. How many times do readings have to turn out wrong before you accept that even if this isn't total fraud/farce, the lack of reliable accuracy in no way justifies the cost any more? But sometimes, the irrational "desperate" part of the mind would still turn to a psychic on the spur-of-the moment despite "knowing" it was not healthy any more to do so. e.g. trying a reader you haven't tried before, hoping "this one will be the one who REALLY knows my future!" <br /><br />So then I turned away from trying to 'counsel' myself out of the addiction and adopted a more practical approach to physically deter myself. Here are some tips I have used myself to help get me off psychic lines. They are common sense, the same way that a person who wants to lose weight would avoid keeping any biscuits or junk food in their kitchen. (or keep cigarettes out of the house & car if trying to quit smoking). <br /><br />First I rang those psychic networks for which I had internet account log-ins and asked them to suspend my accounts. You can ask them to close it but often they say they will just suspend it, which leaves the option for it to be reactivated in the future. Then again, even if you shut down the account fully, the option to reopen an account from scratch is also there. The point is just to make it less convenient to log in and start chatting to a psychic after a few clicks of the mouse. Instead I would now have to ring up the customer services, reactivate the account and double-check my credit card info with them etc.... in the time of doing so, my guilt conscience would have more chance of kicking in and say "what are you doing? are you sure you want to do this? remember why you deactivated in the first place? "<br /><br />Also, I asked them to remove me from all mailing lists to stop getting their monthly circulars in the post (not that I needed any advertising to prompt me to call!) For the email newsletter I unsubscribed or - if that didn't work- send it to spam box. <br />Another thing I did in addition is to totally BLOCK the psychic network websites from being able to be accessed on my computer, e.g. using the advice here http://www.pcworld.com/article/249077/how_to_block_websites.html If I try to access those websites now, I get a message "Oops! Internet Explorer could not connect to ..." So now I can't even go to "just look" who may be online, fooling myself that I'm "just browsing" but suddenly getting an urge to call when I see someone online and say to myself, "Oh! She's online! I should call now whilst I have the opportunity, because she's not often online and she's better than the other readers" etc. Remove the temptation. (And if she was better than the other readers , why do you need a repeat reading? She should have told you enough to get you through the next year or two, knowing you are on track if her predictions were unfolding correctly.) <br />Again, I could easily reverse the website block it if I wanted to but that would require a bit more conscience effort. The ACTION of having listed those websites in a blocked-list somehow increases the "forbidden" status of the whole thing and emphasises to myself that these sites are poison to me at the moment. It's no longer just a notion but an ACTION I took to say, "No!" And that feels good! I'm getting control back.<br /><br />[to be continued]Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-71842291534259303982013-08-03T23:24:13.812+12:002013-08-03T23:24:13.812+12:00I agree with what the first response said about it...I agree with what the first response said about it amounting to trying to control a compulsion. I have come across a psychic who even markets herself as being an expert in helping psychic addicts break the addiction! The irony! Apparently she won't read for someone more frequently than every 6 months. (But what stops the person going to a hundred other psychics in the meantime, without telling the first one?) In the end I decided she was just trying to use the addiction angle as another means of marketing herself, trying to show she understands us even more than other psychics. I never contacted her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-54974534636296400152013-07-31T22:41:27.654+12:002013-07-31T22:41:27.654+12:00I notice a number of journalists or media reporter...I notice a number of journalists or media reporters come to this page looking for people who would do stories with them. As a recovering addict myself, this is my opinion on it: why would I want to openly expose myself to media types? We ended up as addicts to psychic readings because of emotional vulnerability in the first place, some of us may have grudges against psychics by now, a feeling of having been taken advantage of by people we wrongly believed 'cared' in some way, and the last thing I'd want to do is expose myself to media types who are (rightly or wrongly) often seen to be bloodthirsty for juicy stories, i.e. "just in it for the money", no matter what trite words they may say about wanting to help. Call it 'trust issues' if you will, but that is the truth of it! <br /><br />Another factor is that shame of it all. Even with the option of anonymity, why take the risk?<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-79775993793765544582013-07-31T07:15:24.403+12:002013-07-31T07:15:24.403+12:00[Part 5]
You've had it rough in the past. / T...[Part 5]<br /><br />You've had it rough in the past. / Things have not been easy for you. / You have experienced a difficult relationship. / You are healing from past hurts. / Career life has been challenging at times. / You've faced jealousy or envy from others, though perhaps you are not aware of it. / You're hardworking but sometimes feel under-appreciated for it./ You've always felt a little different. / You have never really felt properly understood by others, ever since a young age./ Life has been pretty turbulent for you. / Your kindness has been taken advantage of at times./ The Hermit card shows you have felt isolated ./ Your difficulties will be ending soon. / You have been making great efforts at change and life will reward you for this soon. / You are at a karmic cross-roads now. / You are ending one stage of life and beginning a new stage. / You are on the cusp of great change. / The Tower card shows that this current cycle is coming to an end./ This is your year of change. It is written astrologically./ A bright future is waiting for you. / Your prayers have been heard and will be answered. / There is no time in spirit so I can't say exactly when, but the changes are not too far away. / You will have choices ahead. / You have a little more healing to do but are nearly ready for a new life. / Someone from the past may return but someone new ... possibly 2 new people ... will also enter your life. The choice will be yours. / By the time the weather has turned warm again, you will be in relationship or will have at least crossed paths with a significant person. / You will meet someone compatible within '6'. This could be within 6 hours, 6 days, 6 weeks or 6 months (...or 6 years, or 6 decades...)/ The letters S, P, N or R will be significant. These could be initials of names, surnames, places of residence or birthplaces, or linked somehow to the person you will meet, such as pets' names, street names ,workplace names... / .Someone of similar height or slightly taller than you is connected to you in the future, with average build and dark hair. This is a person whose looks and personality you would find pleasing, and who has also been hurt in the past and is looking for the right person in his/her life now. / There is also the possibility of you connecting with a fairer-haired person who is good-natured and could make your heart sing. / You could have a good energy blend and potential happiness with either choice. / Your life is moving forwards and options are going to open up to you. You just have to stop holding on to the past. / What you want is someone who understands you and appreciates you for who you are. / There is travel for you indicated in the future and the possibility of a foreign or long-distance connection. / Money could be better right now; but things will improve going forward. / You will be meeting more like-minded friends in the future. You will be introduced to more of your soul group as you let go of the past connections which have drained you. / Spirit say you have done well to get this far and do not give up hope. / Your troubles will become a distant memory when you look back at this time. <br /><br />I hope you have enjoyed this FREE reading and found some solace in it! Remember that no matter what a psychic tells you- good or bad, correct or incorrect -ultimately only you can change your life anyway. Your future lies solely in your hands, not theirs. Freeing yourself from your dependency on those who are charging too much to perpetuate the dependency (even if not deliberately) is a great step towards your personal re-empowerment.<br /><br />Good luck and have faith in YOURSELF.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-34005607271244252792013-07-31T07:11:00.035+12:002013-07-31T07:11:00.035+12:00[Part 4]
CONCLUSION:
Worse than wasting my money...[Part 4]<br />CONCLUSION: <br /><br />Worse than wasting my money was the fact that each reading merely reinforced my own dependency on the readings further. So in the end I took advice similar to what I've read in earlier posts, and cancelled the accounts, asked them to remove me from mailing lists etc. <br /><br />Let's stop admiring the Emperors' and Empresses' new clothes. I have reached the point where when I think of some of the psychics from the past, I feel they would have to pay ME to let me be read by them nowadays (and be ultimately more confused, misled, given false hope, wrong advice etc). Perhaps you need to be sufficiently deluded and then disillusioned to reach the stage I have reached! In the meantime, give yourself your own reading FOR FREE... pick from the regular phrases below... [see next message]<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-6673389885696482882013-07-31T07:09:24.056+12:002013-07-31T07:09:24.056+12:00[Part 3]
THE PSYCHICS:
Then I also looked back ca...[Part 3]<br />THE PSYCHICS:<br /><br />Then I also looked back carefully over my experiences with the readers (majority over the phone, often as a repeat client). The quality of psychics varies as in any other profession, but more so because this is not a regulated industry. There are no minimum standards which must be abided by. Psychic networks screen their new applicants for ability, but who monitors the networks themselves? Nobody. Anyone can say anything and charge anything for it, and the addicts continue to pay for their "fix", keeping the industry afloat. The industry does not need to prey on the emotionally vulnerable because the emotionally vulnerable flock to the industry of their own accord!<br /><br />Nobody got things 100% right. But some were 100% wrong! Some people gave me specific details they could not have known (impressing me), but other information from the same person would be plain wrong (confusing me). I actually waited over a year to disprove one guy who was so confident his prediction would materialize. When I went back and challenged them over the failed predictions, a few good souls would admit they had got it wrong and apologize sincerely. Others had such big egos they would give all sorts of excuses and "explanations". I was eventually blocked by several readers in the end for challenging them when their readings repeatedly were wrong despite constant insistences on their part that what they saw would come true. They showed little remorse for the false hope they had imparted. The cost of that false hope was more than the money paid by the client (me) - it led to a lot of disappointment later. I wasn't sure who to be angry at: them for having led me on, them for not saying 'sorry I got it wrong', or myself for having been 'suckered', myself for being 'weak' to have turned to them in the first place. <br /><br />This is when I began seeing them for who they are. As I got to be more acquainted with some of them (in person or via internet), I realized many of them have as many personal crises as the next person. Many are themselves not mentally, emotionally nor spiritually balanced. I'm not demanding perfection of them but why seek guidance from someone about love matters when he/she can't sort out his/her own love life? Can someone who has had 2 divorces and continues to be stuck in a loveless marriage herself really advise me on letting go of the past and looking ahead to moving on to better things? Can someone who is himself codependent in his own relationship really advise me on 'detachment from outcome'? Where is their conscience in continuing to charge clients money when they have been given feedback that their predictions have not materialized? I'm not here to generalise and malign them all, but I did begin keeping a list of who had got things materially wrong (I overlooked small details being incorrect, though really if they can't get the small stuff right, why should I think they can get the big stuff right?) and as more people added to the list, I reached the obvious conclusion: this was one big waste of money. My money. There is NO accountability on their part, so I have to be accountable on my part and simply stop getting involved. Whatever their own psychoses, I finally decided to step out of my own psychosis by facing up to the fact that if all the amazing things I had been predicted years ago had come true as they claimed, I would have stopped "needing" readings ages ago too and would be living that happily ever after already! <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-60872470863935271372013-07-31T07:08:41.805+12:002013-07-31T07:08:41.805+12:00{Part 2}
DEMAND side:
Looking back as objectively ...{Part 2}<br />DEMAND side:<br />Looking back as objectively as I can, I have picked out the following patterns. First in my behaviour: the addiction to readings is a symptom of a kind of dependency (or codependency) in my behaviour, lack of belief in self, touches of situational depression (on and off), lack of confidence in self, low self-esteem, lack of cultivation of my own intuition, lack of faith in myself to charter the waters ahead on my own, lack of focus on my own experience in life. These aspects of self are what led me to turn to psychics for help in the first place, like a moth to the flame, believing the answer is always "out there", not "in here". <br /><br />Whereas going for counselling with a good, well-trained counsellor would ultimately lead me having to do some work ... to work out the root of my psychological issues, psychics are an easy "short cut" answer. They tell me the answer quickly and easily. But a short-cut is a short-term solution, which puts a plaster ("band aid") on the problem and needs a top-up regularly.<br /><br />Once I finally viewed and accepted the addiction from this point of view, I saw that the readings were merely perpetuating the problems which I had originally turned to the readings to overcome, i.e. the lack of ability to stand on my own 2 feet and believe I can create my life, and go do it. They were in fact enabling and perpetuating the problem, whilst storing up future financial problems in the process. Ironic. The feeling of wanting a reading started to become distasteful to me in itself, which was my own intuition telling me "Stop!" <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-63032128925209264602013-07-31T07:07:50.985+12:002013-07-31T07:07:50.985+12:00[Part 1]
DISCLAIMER:
"Psychic readings are f...[Part 1]<br />DISCLAIMER: <br />"Psychic readings are for entertainment purposes only". So says the disclaimer on all readings in the UK, so that no practitioner opens themselves up to risk of prosecution under the 1824 Vagrancy Act passed by Parliament, which made fortune-telling and astrology "punishable offences". But if it's all done in the name of entertainment, it's fine. And more pertinent to the topic at hand, no addicts or other customers who have spent large amounts of money on wrong predictions can go back and sue the psychics for professional negligence or wrong advice. If you didn't enjoy the movie at the cinema, that' s not the cinema's fault. And in a similar vein, if you didn't enjoy the reading, that's not the psychics fault.<br /><br />MY EXPERIENCE:<br />My experience has been similar to many here so I won't go into lots of detail. I consider[ed!] myself intelligent, well-educated, still have a decent job, and spent far too much on psychic readings in a manner of an addiction ,i.e. out of control. Like others, it started off innocently enough, needing a sympathetic ear and to be told "things will get better" after a relationship disaster. Like others, I was drawn in by the amazing ability of psychics to pick up information they couldn't have randomly guessed. And then I got 'hooked'....addicted. And things did not get better, despite the rosy predictions. Not till I quit the readings!<br /><br />I do believe in psychic phenomena. I do believe in the ability of some psychics to pick up things. I also believe the future is not set in stone, but is probabilistic and we can change the future. Therefore I would often excuse wrong predictions as cases where I had changed the course of my destiny from what had been projected at the time of the readings. A few readings stand out in my mind as having given me advice which literally changed the course of my life (for the better). But I would say that they amount to perhaps 5% of the readings at most, the rest being a 'waste' in the grander scheme of things. About a third of the readings probably made me hang on to no-hope situations longer than I should have, too, to my detriment.<br /><br />"So why do it?" someone may say?<br /><br />There are 2 aspects I would like to write about, which I could call "demand side" and "supply side" issues, respectively. Demand side looks at why I, the addict, felt the urge for readings. And 'supply side' issues looks closer at the psychics themselves.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-39367730816183254142013-07-31T02:50:13.608+12:002013-07-31T02:50:13.608+12:00But how do you KNOW you are accurate if you can...But how do you KNOW you are accurate if you can't read for yourself? Out of each 100 readings you have given, how many did you get feedback from? Most psychics overestimate their own accuracy and can't believe it when told later that they got it wrong.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-80127701280458073242013-06-30T01:36:27.390+12:002013-06-30T01:36:27.390+12:00I am just beginning to realize that I have been a ...I am just beginning to realize that I have been a fool and have become addicted to psychic lines and psychic advice over the last few years. It started gradually, but has snow balled into something that has been destructive to my finances and my mental health. Some of the people that I have talked with are genuinely kind and empathetic but some aren't. I also believe that some of these people network and share information and pass on information. They are not required to be confidential about the things you say to them! BEWARE!! I got wise to all of this because I kept feeling they were putting words into my mouth and you get clusters of info if you use these people regularly, that all tally for a while, but then can completely contradict previous "messages" from 6 months or whatever ago. I developed an interest in Tarot years ago because I find it hard to understand other people sometimes and it was grief that prompted me to start on this road. Please DO NOT trust these people, get proper counseling and make use of great FREE services out there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-78905264023827054422013-06-26T23:29:29.083+12:002013-06-26T23:29:29.083+12:00Hi
I am getting addicted to to hot lines too, I h...Hi <br />I am getting addicted to to hot lines too, I have been having readings on and off for over 10 years, and all have been about finding the one.<br /><br />recently it has got worse and I have been calling the hot lines, they all have said the same, the man I was with will come back, and then I have a chance to be with him, and shortly after I have the option of meeting the right man.<br /><br />I have been hearing this now for several months, but nothing has happened. I believe it will, that is my hope, I had a reading just 2 days ago and she said your ex is coming back and you will either get with him and also meet some-one new in the next month. so I believe it, I actually do believe it deep down.<br />I am just so heartbroken that my love life is so sad and I am now in my mid forties and have not met the one yet.. so I keep on ringing.<br />I am getting desperate, what should I do , stop the pyschics for good and face facts that I don't know what will ever happen? I feel really anxious and sad I need the confidence in myself to love my self and not rely on this, false hopeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-21578808611419378722013-06-05T19:42:17.182+12:002013-06-05T19:42:17.182+12:00Hi ... I have been calling psychics for about thre...Hi ... I have been calling psychics for about three years. I was going through a tough time at work, experiencing a lot of anxiety and was lonely. There was also a relationship that wasn't going particularly well and ended at the same time. I was a complete mess. I've always been interested in the occult and until this time I had only ever visited psychics (bar 1 or 2 times over phone) face to face and then it was only occasionally. However, when I started speaking to them regularly I was ringing sometimes twice a day when things were really bad for me and now I am in the habit whenever I have any worries/anxiety I have the urge to ring them. I'm not sure how to 'fix' this... But I am very appreciative of everybody's posts and I don't feel so alone. thanks! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-25217890502826068352013-05-08T20:03:00.036+12:002013-05-08T20:03:00.036+12:00I am a psychic addict, I realized it few days ago,...I am a psychic addict, I realized it few days ago, find this site, thank you <br />I had a terrible break up and already three years talked about it on line... the reason is shame ....I paid to psychic just to talk about ex- it was helpful just for the moment of talking but the pain come back and it does not help ... waste of money...professional help what I need it the most but how, where, I am so in shame of my behaviorAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-19014864891965964752013-04-06T18:36:20.253+13:002013-04-06T18:36:20.253+13:00(continued) Living life in this moment, to the bes...(continued) Living life in this moment, to the best of YOUR ability and FEELING THE PAIN- creates growth and your dreams coming true. don't be afraid of the fear! It's not going to kill you (it will make you think otherwise!)- you do have the upper hand if you just let it flow through you and know that you are LOVED. It will leave. Instead of calling, sit and feel your anxiety and observe it. Don't feed it with your mind. Instead- meditate and still your mind from the obsessive thoughts by letting the muddy basin of water that is your mind, become still enough to let the mud settle to the bottom so your mind is clear. Your moment to moment life is building your future. The core of WHO YOU ARE is not what you do, who you are with, or the ugly circumstances that might be surrounding you. Connect to the higher part of you outside of your pain. Allow your pain to be there but don’t identify yourself with it. (By “pain”- I mean loneliness, sadness, anxiety, broken heart, uncertainty, anger, suspicion, mistrust…) I say this with COMPLETE understanding and empathy for what you are feeling. Know that you can and will be okay!!!!! My prayers are with you!!!! You are NOT alone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-28094921091363035612013-04-06T18:35:36.152+13:002013-04-06T18:35:36.152+13:00Now I realize that there really is no set “future”...Now I realize that there really is no set “future” and that when a psychic does predict the future correctly, it is outside the realm of my understanding and it’s also from the perspective of THAT ONE MOMENT ONLY- and moments change! I know that I am giving my life power away when I decide to call someone else about what will be created in my life, instead of living through and creating in each situation (whether it is one to my liking or not!). Pain and uncertainty are part of the building blocks of learning how to create the things you want. Sitting on the phone to a psychic is not building anything and might seem harmless, but it is the kind of thinking that promotes weakness rather than strength, faith, trust in the ultimate good for your life. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-89602736703402416372013-04-06T18:35:15.184+13:002013-04-06T18:35:15.184+13:00(continued) In the end, honestly- I believe that w...(continued) In the end, honestly- I believe that we all have intuition. But- we do not all have trust in ourselves in using it. My problem is that I haven’t been able to distinguish my intuition from fear. So, I called others who have really honed in on it to help me. But I do believe that using anything outside of ourselves in finding definite answers (in any area of life) is very risky business. We will NEVER get the right answer outside our own heart. If it is what you want to hear, if it is not what you want to hear, you will always have anxiety over it, want another opinion - and then that opinion sparks another need for another opinion. AND... We lose our ability to manage our uncertainty when we rely on someone/something else. We completely lose that muscle. So when I decided NO MORE- it was one of the hardest days of my life and I spent a lot of time in bed. I felt negativity/fear crawling over me, and realized- this isn't love. This isn't trust. This isn't faith. And THOSE are the things I wanted the psychic to tell me that I would be getting in my future. I then read books like: A New Earth, and The Untethered Soul, the Bible, and realized that every reaction to my problem or question- is actually a request to the universe. So if I react with fear and uncertainty, then that is exactly what will be given. It’s how the universe works and I see that cycle very clearly. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31529261.post-30315606205484161052013-04-06T18:34:42.362+13:002013-04-06T18:34:42.362+13:00How did I get past the peak of my addiction? Well...How did I get past the peak of my addiction? Well- honestly, I came to a point when I felt like I wasn't going to make it. I had spent all of my savings, maxed out my credit card, and had literally NO money in my checking account. It was scary to have a well paying job, and be eating the beans in the back of my cupboard because I couldn’t buy food. It was bad. I look back at that time, and see the pure desperation and pain that resulted in the addiction. I have a lot of forgiveness to do, in forgiving myself for behaving in a way that I NEVER thought I would, and for wanting someone to love me so badly- even someone who was abusive! I still deal with cravings and have to do something in order not to call… shopping, getting on this website, reading, but the best: meditation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com